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We are ask gerd_a, an anti-sexist collective in Berlin. We support people in dealing with experienced sexualized1 violence, sexism, and violent dynamics within relationships- regardless of whether it is physical, psychological, or emotional violence. In the course of doing this we strive to operate outside of definitions of violence that are dominated by major instituions or the state, because we wish to distance ourselves from the often disempowering practices that go along with them.

The foundation of our work is made up of strictly believing in the power of self-naming2 and always taking a partisan stance. Practically applied this means that we actively position ourselves on the side of the person who experienced sexualized violence and do not question their3 perception of what has happended. Only they can determine when, by whom, and how a transgression of their boundaries has taken place. We wish to confront the sexist reality in which we live –where too often silence and denial are the answer to sexualized violence- with our solidarity and support.

The objective of the political support we do is to reestablish nd empower the capacity to act of the person who experienced sexualized violence. In our case this means that two of us will meet with you to try and find out what you might need and what it is that might do you good. Besides these conversations we can offer different other things, like for example taking care of the communication with the person who transgressed your boundaries or groups that they are part of. You can be certain though that your wishes form our orientation and that we will not act in any way that you do not want us to act in.
When contacting us it is possible to voice preferences concerning the gender and/or background experience of the people who will be supporting you. We will then try and make this possible. When the contact is established these two people will guarantee anonymity and that what you share with them will stay in between the three of you.

We are not able to offer therapy and also do not work directly with perpetrators. What we can offer though is giving out contacts of people who do and advising people working transformatively with perpetrators.

We are an “all-gender” group –also welcoming people of all gernders- that formed out of anti-sexist political action and the desire to not leave people who lived through acts of violence alone. Many among us have experienced disturbing sexist behavior, some homo- and trans*phobia, and some have experienced sexualized violence, some haven‘t.

If after reading this introduction further questions arise, or if you would like to contact us asking for support, don’t hesitate to send us an e-mail. We will get back to you shortly but it might initially take a bit longer to arrange for a personal meeting. If you are not sure if what you experienced or are experiencing fits what we offer we are also happy to give you feedback on that. Sexualized violence has many shapes and forms and anything that is important to you can generally be part of our support.

Here’s our e-mail address: ask_gerd_a at riseup.net
(to contact us please swap the “at” with an “@”)

  1. In this context sexuality is a tool of violence rather than existing in its own right. To move the focus away from sexuality and thereby make clear that it is merely instrumentalized to excert power we use the term “sexualized” rather than “sexual” [zurück]
  2. Only the person affected can define what they perceive and regard as violent. Violence is individually experienced differently according to a persons personal history, the things they went through and their current circumstances in life. It can therefor not be measured by seamingly objective criteria. If a person who experienced sexualized violence defines it as such it fits their perception and therefor has to be respected and not questioned [zurück]
  3. Using the term “they” rather than “he/she” we wish to acknowledge a multitude of sexual identities. We want to give space for all gender definitions and also to the possibility of not wanting to define at all [zurück]